Ah, the dating scene: the awkward pauses, the nervous sweat.Kinda makes you queasy all over just thinking about it.Recently, some of my married friends told me how they missed the "thrill" of first dates.
Like when enthusiastic but spastic Steven spilled popcorn (extra butter) on my skirt, then wiped it up with a Coke-soaked napkin.
Or the dinner-date during which I got sick and ended up face-first in my plate of pasta.
I could go on…Lest you think me pitiable or cynical, I have actually had great first dates that ended without a dry-cleaning bill.
I've learned that dating awkwardness is usually due to unspoken expectations: he doesn't know what she's thinking and vice versa.
Today, especially among Christians, it seems group dating is preferred over the traditional one-on-one date.
"It's less stressful and easier to talk," explains Dan, a 29-year-old communications specialist in Orlando, Florida.Group dates can be a good way to get to know people, but it's important that you don't lapse into that are-we-dating-or-are-we-friends situation which begs for misunderstandings."Who wants one of those confusing relationships that no one can define? " laughs Jessica, 32, an author and freelance writer in Portland, Oregon.Here's a tip, guys: women really like it when it's clear that you like them.Don't wait too long, and don't call Thursday for a weekend date."When a guy calls in advance," says 28-year-old Megan, a freelance writer in Nashville, Tennessee, "he thinks enough of me to decide, 'I'd better give her notice.'"When you do call a potential date, be open to suggestions, but have an idea in mind."I think it's cool when she suggests what she wants to do," says Matthew, 31, a graphic artist in St. "Then you know what's fun for her.""The worst is when a guy picks me up and whips out the newspaper, looking for ideas," Megan says."One of my best dates was with Chris," recalls Jessica.