As a Christian father, should I give my daughter away at the wedding if she's marrying a non-believer?
In light of what Scripture says about being "unequally yoked," should I, as her father, support this marriage by "giving her away" at the wedding?
This is one of those questions that doesn't have a single "correct" answer. Conscience is something the biblical writers take very seriously.
They allow room for a great deal of latitude and scope in this area (see, for example, Acts 23:1; Romans , 9:1, 14:5; I Corinthians 8:1-13; II Corinthians ; I Timothy 1:5, 19; Hebrews ; I Peter , 21). Because in the final analysis, only you and your spouse can decide how to handle this sensitive situation.
For our part, we can encourage you to pray, seek wise counsel, and talk things through carefully with one another and with your child before making up your minds.
We can also mention a few points you may want to take into consideration as you move through that process.
First, as a full-fledged adult, your daughter is your peer. It's understandable that you want her to honor the faith in which you've raised her.This means that the task of "raising" her is now complete. In spite of this, you are no longer in a position to tell her what to do.You can express concerns about her choice of a marriage partner. You can point out the increased potential for conflict in any marriage where the partners can't agree about their deepest spiritual convictions.You can urge the young couple to confront that potential head-on with the help of a pre-marital counselor.You can discuss all of these issues openly and intelligently, just as you would discuss them with any other adult Christian friend.But in the end you have to treat your grown daughter as an equal and respect her decisions.