They have various expressions for the act; rouler une pelle — to turn the spatula — is particularly popular.Madame Figaro reminds French women in the States to not send the first SMS after an encounter, so as not to seem “desperate”.The man, also pretending to be busy and not desperate, will generally follow a “three-day rule” in waiting to text the woman for a second date.
“On the other hand, if nothing has happened by the fourth date, you can start to worry.” Terrafemina says that sex is generally on the third date, and Rue89 says it’s on the fourth.
Americans describe their degree of sexual activity with bases (from baseball), in contrast to the French vitesses (switching into various gears).
Tipsy Pilgrim has previously covered these and other cultures’ ways of rating one’s sexual conquests.
When the French venture into the American dating scene, they find it warlike, unromantic, a bit slutty, and — above all — highly regimented. — are attempts from Marie-Lyse Paquin writing for rules for the American déïte, as explained by those brave French who have attempted to cross the romantic divide.
“Their highly codified dating game doesn’t leave much space for magic,” complains . I’ve only included observations that I’ve found frequently repeated in French-language news articles and blogs (though I’ve also heard variants of these repeated by people from various parts of the world who have spent time in America), and the standard TP disclaimers apply; as with all cultural observations, they’re not universal descriptions of behavior, and they’re obviously relative to the culture making the observations.
“The American game of seduction is like military strategy, and it makes mincemeat of any innocent, lighthearted European daring to set foot in the land of pragmatic romance.” Dating, French language sources say, is every bit as bad as American TV series have led the French public to believe.. May the advice prove useful to those attempting to date à la américaine, and for Americans — who really ought to discover how other cultures see their romance manqué.
The word déïte — as the French phonetically spell it — doesn’t have an exact translation. “I would try to tell [American] guys, ‘I’m French; I don’t date,'” says a French expat in California, interviewed by Madame Figaro, “but it didn’t work.
They needed everything to be explicit” — in terms of whether or not an outing was officially a date.
Americans are thus obliged to officially ask each other out, and the first date is often for a drink and to make small talk.