Your mother always told you so and you never really believed it too much, but the fact is that first impressions really count.
So why is it that so many guys and girls (yes girls too) fail miserably in avoiding the move from the Inbox to the trash can?
Extensive research into online dating statistics show that there are some set rules that we all need to follow.
It might not sound very romantic, but you can’t argue with stats and figures and following a set of guidelines will probably help you feel more comfortable when sending your first message.
Tone down the Netspeak Netspeak is the main culprit when it comes to unsuccessful first mails.
The words (if you can call them that) are the top nine worst words to use in an opening message.
Mails that contain these words will get practically no replies proving that intelligence (or maybe just good grammar) is an attractive trait in both sexes.
Surprisingly, though, , while still effective tends to sound a bit like a supervillain.
Drop the polite “Hello” Now it might seem strange to say that after we just told you to use correct grammar, but messages that start off with come across as run of the mill and perhaps a bit boring.
So while you should avoid using netspeak too much, using slang or an unusual greeting is considered a great move.
You could always spruce it up a bit and go with a foreign greeting, but make sure you know what it means otherwise you could come off looking like a bit of a Del boy.
Nothing Physical Theirs might be the most beautiful smile in the world, but pointing that fact out in a first message will most likely be a turn off.