The alternative is finding ways to maintain the spark, despite the hundreds or even thousands of miles that make sex a special occasion kind of thing. For tips on how to do this with tact, we talked to Nick Savoy, president of Love Systems, who clued us in on how to turn a smartphone into the ultimate tool for keeping an LDR alive.
Find a place where you can talk or do other things, wink wink lol– in privacy.
Turn out the lights, or fill the bathtub with bubbles — whatever makes you feel less vulnerable and more relaxed with your man.
Sex Up Your Voice To ante up the seduction factor, lower your register, and speak a bit more slowly than usual — think breathy and husky.
This will help you get in the mood, and it keeps your nosy roommate from overhearing.
A glass of wine or whiskey may help, but don’t overindulge. Always Embellish So you’re sitting around in sweats, a holey T-shirt and an avocado mask.
But as far as he’s concerned, you’re wearing head-to-toe Agent Provocateur and you ooze sex appeal. “Men want to feel like you’re enjoying the sexy talk as much as they are, and that you’re into their fantasy.
Just go along for the ride.” If you’re too shy to share, keep the momentum going by lowering your voice and asking, “And then what would you do to me?
” Moaning, lustful sighing, saying his name and compliments also work wonders. Not everything he whispers into the phone will be something you’re totally up for lool.
We advise to “chuckling knowingly” rather than laughing if something takes you by surprise.